What happen when we see our crush ?

Everybody thinks that  you can tell a lot about someone by looking in their eyes.And when it comes to having a crush, they’re right. That's awkward. When you’re looking at someone you like, I mean, your body actually changes in a variety of ways. And one of the things that happens is you go all googly eyed. No really, your pupils dilate. Your pupil size is controlled by your autonomic nervous system, which regulates all of your involuntary actions like breathing, heart rate, and sweating. A branch of this system called the sympathetic nervous system, or SNS, is responsible for your body’s fight or flight mechanism. This mechanism acts up when you’re under stress, like when you’re talking to your crush, and releases the hormone noradrenaline, causing your pupils to dilate.This same hormone also causes you to sweat more and your heart to beat faster around someone you like. And having dilated pupils might actually serve a purpose.

In a series of studies done in the 1960s and 70s, researchers learned that men find women with larger pupils more attractive. Another study published in 2004 in Evolution and Human Behavior supported these findings and also showed that women were more attracted to men with medium or large sized pupils.

Even as far back as 500 years ago in Italy, women trying to attract men would put the extract of the Belladona plant into their eyes to dilate their pupils. Another sign of attraction is that flushed look on your face anytime you get up the courage to talk to someone you like. Blushing is also a result of your SNS, which causes the blood vessels in your face to dilate, increasing blood flow and giving you rosey red cheeks.

It’s more common in women than men, and although there are a few theories as to why this happens, scientists still aren’t clear on the purpose of blushing. But even if you aren’t the blushing type, your crush might still be able to tell that you like them when you speak to them.  There have been numerous studies done on what happens to your voice when you are attracted to someone, and they all seem to agree that it changes… but they don’t necessarily agree on how. According to a 2014 study published in Evolution and Human Behavior, males speak in a more melodic fashion when they are talking with someone they like... almost the way you might speak to a baby… and also deepen their voice. Another study published in Nonverbal Behavior supports this, noting that both sexes had lower pitched voices when they were talking to someone they found attractive. (Tries it out) “Excuse me, young lady, you’re looking awfully nice tonight!”.

Mmm...Maybe I should work on that. In both those studies, participants looked at potential partners that they found attractive. But a study done on people in relationships had different results. Research published in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior took people in new relationships and had strangers listen in on their conversations.The strangers had to guess if the subjects were talking to platonic friends or romantic

Partners. Listeners noted that the tones people used with their partners were, quote, “more pleasant,

sexier, and reflecting greater romantic interest”. They also found that males and females changed their voice to closely match or mimic the other’s tone. Males spoke in a higher pitch, while ladies deepened their voices.It’s almost as if they were trying to come together in harmony and make sweet, sweet beautiful music.

So obviously, more research is needed to tell exactly how (and why) your voice changes when

you’re talking to a crush. Just remember that even if you’re trying play it cool, you’re still giving off physical

cues that you’re one smitten kitten. And if things get serious, remember for 100 years every kiss begins with Kay…. Once you and your crush have finally gotten past the awkward beginnings, you may be ready

for some cuddle bug time.